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    Okay, this time I'm serious. I read a book this week that changed my very outlook on life and work a lot of things. Not that I thought that there was anything wrong to begin with, but that's what the book is really about.

    It was required reading for work, and I resented it at first. By now I have heard every training and leadership buzz term and it's all so tiresome after enough years, yeah yeah yeah, same paint same can with a different label, new name, nothing new has been presented since the '50's. It's another re-hash of what we all already know, by somebody trying to make more new money from an old and already established concept.

    No, it's not. I'm awestruck. It's an epiphany. Though it has a workplace slant, it's about life in general. And folks, is it ever an eye-opener, at least it was to me. You can take this stuff home, and to the grocery store, anywhere you go.

    It's not a big book, about a three-hour read if you read as slowly as I do. To give you some idea, I finished reading the book and went out into the hall at work. Here comes a guy down the hall, a guy that truthfully....well, I've never liked him to say the least. And I did not have the high-blood-pressure-I-hate-to-see-this-guy-coming feeling for the first time in my life. It felt for the first time ever that I really understand everything.

    A lot of the book, well, actually at least half of it, is based on situations that come up at home, not at work. It's not a textbook per se, it's written like a mini-novel. A story, and a mighty good one.

    I've got no interest in the sale of this book. All I'm saying is, go find it. Read it. And then I'd say, "Think," but by the end of it, you won't have to think. You already have.

    Go to the library and find it or buy a copy if you have to. The folks who put out the book recognize its significance and even recommend that you pass it around to family and friends and coworkers. They're not bent on circulation because they've had plenty already and the message is bigger than the money.

    "Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box"
    by Arbinger Institue

    It's awesome, and this time, I'm not kidding around. Life-changing. Wow, it's actually liberating. It's....well, it's huge. It really is. I was sitting alone and got to the last paragraph on page 170-something, which answered something I've always been puzzled about, and when I read that paragraph, I yelled "WOW!" all there by myself.


    Trust me. I'll be interested to hear what you have to say after reading it. That'll sure be worth a thread, or a whole forum site, for that matter. WOW.


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    Just had a great phone conversation with Matt (Pumpkin). He's real interested in the book that I'm talking about, and to reassure you all, I posted this book-thing because I'm every bit that enthusiastic about it. On this night, I think EVERYBODY should read this book. If and when you see it, you might not be as thrilled as I am about it, but I am actually changed by it.

    So, Matt brought up a good point. This book is in no way shape or form about cars, but he named a few folks here who may be interested about it anyway.

    I'm going to have to buy a copy of this book. All of the copies I have at my disposal are assigned to individuals at work. I read a copy I hadn't given out yet, but now it's gone.

    So, I buy a copy (which I by now absolutely must have) for Sue Unit to read. Yes, it's an EVERYBODY read-it thing.

    And after she gets through with it, should I or should I not add the title to the BangShift book club? Votes here matter, and I promise not to create a poll.
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      OOOkay. I'm an impatient soul (and that part is not covered in the book) so I guess nobody wants it on the BS Book Club. It's sure not a car book at all.

      You could be missing your whole life if you don't read it, though. I'm ready to catch back up.
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      • #4
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        Does it have any pictures in it or pages to color on?


        ;D


        (Sorry, peedub... I had to crack wise)


        Heck, I'll be your Huckleberry. Send me a copy and I will read it and pass it along.


        Ron
        It's really no different than trying to glue them back on after she has her way.

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        • #5
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          found a review

          Amazon.com Review
          Using the story/parable format so popular these days, Leadership and Self-Deception takes a novel psychological approach to leadership. It's not what you do that matters, say the authors (presumably plural--the book is credited to the esteemed Arbinger Institute), but why you do it. Latching onto the latest leadership trend won't make people follow you if your motives are selfish--people can smell a rat, even one that says it's trying to empower them. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed. We deceive ourselves in subtle ways into thinking that we're doing the right thing for the right reason. We really do know what the right thing to do is, but this constant self-justification becomes such an ingrained habit that it's hard to break free of it--it's as though we're trapped in a box, the authors say.
          Learning how the process of self-deception works--and how to avoid it and stay in touch with our innate sense of what's right--is at the heart of the book. We follow Tom, an old-school, by-the-book kind of guy who is a newly hired executive at Zagrum Corporation, as two senior executives show him the many ways he's "in the box," how that limits him as a leader in ways he's not aware of, and of course how to get out. This is as much a book about personal transformation as it is about leadership per se. The authors use examples from the characters' private as well as professional lives to show how self-deception skews our view of ourselves and the world and ruins our interactions with people, despite what we sincerely believe are our best intentions.

          While the writing won't make John Updike lose any sleep, the story entertainingly does the job of pulling the reader in and making a potentially abstruse argument quite enjoyable. The authors have a much better ear for dialogue than is typical of the genre (the book is largely dialogue), although a certain didactic tone creeps in now and then. But ultimately it's a hopeful, even inspiring read that flows along nicely and conveys a message that more than a few managers need to hear. --Pat McGill --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
          I am not interested. if the talk is to get out of self deception for a leadership role...you just self decieved to become a leader.

          it is not why you do something..it is a matter of doing it....

          by nature.

          I am not reading it. ???
          Previously boxer3main
          the death rate and fairy tales cannot kill the nature left behind.

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          • #6
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            I was going to comment,but now I won't at this time.
            Calypornya...near the beach

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            • #7
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              Sounds interesting Peewee....

              I like books that make me think.... and any book that you say changed your life.... is worth looking at....

              There are a couple of those for Tonya and I....

              Good to Great by Jim Collins ( best book ever on general business leadership )

              Cash Flow quadrant by Rich Kyosaki ( best book ever on Money )

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              • #8
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                I've got a copy coming to put on the BS Book Club, if you think that's okay Keith.

                Pumpkin gets it first.

                Boxer, no it's not about work, really. But it is, but it isn't. It's about life. It's huge, at least to me. I'd like to have some other opinions from folks who have read it, really, to see if perhaps I actually read too much into it, or more than other folks will.
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                  Boxer, take all of the leadership crap and stuff out of it, and let's take one bit of the Amazon review totally out of context:

                  "the many ways he's "in the box," how that limits him"

                  THAT is what it's about. You can't know about the box until you read the book. We're all in it, unless and until we REALIZE we're in it, and then work on it. It takes work and thought and a mighty lot of emotion to get out. Soul searching in fact. And we're never perfect, it's the awakening.

                  Well, I don't know if that helps. Of all folks here, Boxer, I would never intentionally offer up something that made you type a frowny face. Methinks, you may be in the box with the rest of us. And the fact that you absolutely don't want to read the book makes your box even stronger. (And the box is but a word for a concept) The box eats and feeds on self-justification,.....the box requires and forces us to NEED problems to prove that the box is valid, like if all I have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. It's self-perpetuating.

                  Never mind, it's all in the book. I'll shut up. I really will. I'm done. Hard to believe from me, but that's enough of that from me. I'm transformed by it, and I feel like I won the game of life. Finally, I understand it all. It was the WHY that I was missing, and now I've got it.
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                  • #10
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                    peewee,from all of your posts I can't really imagine you disliking anyone,but you do.So you're just human
                    like the rest of us.I'm ALWAYS suspicious of people who say they don't didlike anyone.I like everyone here at B.S.
                    but haven't met them all in person(makes ME suspicious too).From the outline of the book,I want to read it.Checked online local library,no
                    results,and I'm not gonna buy it.Unlike the local squrrels,I've got enough nuts stored all ready, so not looking to buy anymore.
                    Calypornya...near the beach

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                      Originally posted by HEMI
                      peewee,from all of your posts I can't really imagine you disliking anyone,but you do.So you're just human
                      like the rest of us.I'm ALWAYS suspicious of people who say they don't didlike anyone.I like everyone here at B.S.
                      but haven't met them all in person(makes ME suspicious too).From the outline of the book,I want to read it.Checked online local library,no
                      results,and I'm not gonna buy it.Unlike the local squrrels,I've got enough nuts stored all ready, so not looking to buy anymore.
                      HEMI, thank you so much as always, and the guy I disliked, he and I go WAAAAAAAY back. And me disliking him was my choice. And I realize now that me disliking him was something that I chose to trouble me. In the realm of things, it was a problem I decided to have.

                      And while I've got you online, let me thank you for all of my life for getting me hooked up with BangShift, even though there's no way you knew that was the way it would come out. YOU started it, me on here. Let everybody blame you, from now own.

                      Okay, I have to assume the book is okay to put on the BS Book club. Have heard no "no" from the authorities, being as to how it's not at all a car book. This is where I need to hook up on the Book Club Thread, if it's an acceptable title, and I'm only trying to keep my notes in order:

                      Matt (Pumpkin)
                      Ron Ward
                      Keith Turk
                      HEMI

                      If I missed anybody, I do genuinely apologize.......and I haven't had clearance yet from the BangShift Bigs to put it on the book club....
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                      • #12
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                        O.K..I'm the person to blame.I'm guilty as charged.As to a book club,lets do it.
                        Calypornya...near the beach

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                        • #13
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                          I proclaim a non-executive decision here and say we do it, too. Will it be a radical rebellion from the strictly car-related book club or shall we create a whole new nation of self-help-book club type of stuff?

                          Who will write the Declaration and the Consitution? And who shall sign it?

                          We could get killed like this ya know. Some of our ancestors did, after all. And the most serious thing is, those guys are still seriously real dead....
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                          • #14
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                            Started thread .If it don't work hang me from the highest tree,and woman don't weep for me.
                            Calypornya...near the beach

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                              Originally posted by HEMI
                              Started thread .If it don't work hang me from the highest tree,and woman don't weep for me.
                              Hmmm Thems sounds like fightin' werds to me

                              Okay, we'll do it
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