Advice needed: Manners

[SuperBuickGuy]

Hypothetically speaking, say my wife had a subject today go out and lay a trail for her..... now, mind you, hypothetically speaking, if she were to have misplaced this subject - would it be poor form to call the husband and children of this mom the day before Christmas and leave a message on their answering machine that the mom has been misplaced?

I say it's poor manners, my wife asserts that it's just fine because there's, really, no good way of telling them their mommy is gone...
what say you?

[studemax]

Sure like to know WTH you're talking about.
Can you be more specific?

[Monk]

Mom went out the door singing 'I gotta be me'?

If so that'd be a tough call..........then you get
into 'how long do you know about it?'

[DanStokes]

Sounds like a really tough situation. Good manners really are about being as kind as possible in any situation - not always easy to do.

Dan

[dieselgeek]

Sounds like a really tough situation. Good manners really are about being as kind as possible in any situation - not always easy to do.

Dan

kinda like not being a total d-bag if someone opens their car door into your hummer? lol

[Dan Barlow]

Yeah, I think I would have to talk to the dad personally. On the phone or face to face. Hope it all turns out o.k.Hope mommy can come back on her own.

[oldsman496]

More clarification is needed. i guess i'm just slow.

are the supposers correct in the assumption of a runaway? If so why is it neccessary to even be involved, unless the mommy that went missing asked you to be involved..... of course..... i am assuming most of what i don't know. bizzare.

[Bamfster]

Need more info ....

Just MIA?....Tact is your friend.

MIA because she wants to be?.....just tell them but be polite.

KIA? ..... Straight and to the point, be respectful.

And when dealing with these types of situations, I have found it's extremely disrespectful to leave a message, let alone do it over the phone ..... always make the notification in person.

[Beagle]

if she bailed on her family on Christmas like my first wife did me? I'd charge a fortune to deliver that message, or I'd stay out of it completely. Manners says let the lady tell her own tale.

[Gary 351C]

If she's missing I'd worry about an alibi and accounting for you whereabouts before manners. You can never be too careful.

[SuperBuickGuy]

good gravy.... it's a joke

sheesh

[DanStokes]

THAT'S a relief! I thought it was something you had been charged with doing in your professional role - which would suck.

Dan

[Barry Donovan]

I misunderstood the original post.

thought of a snow shovel for some reason.

she misplaced the snow shovel..and now is missing.

[Deaf Bob]

Guess the word hypothetically is not understood...


Like BAMF says.. In person, face to face if she fell off making a practice sniff trail
Nothing if she is trying to get away from an abusive situation
But then how do you know she isn't done and home sipping coffee..

Suppose it depends on actuallity rather than hypothetically ........

[Thumpin455]

I was thinking wood chippers on the shore of a frozen lake combined with the Grizwolds and a lawyer that drives a Hummer.