Reason I haven't been on here much

[Thumpin455]

Hobbies are perfect. Draw, write, plan car builds, target practice, lifting, do bodywork on a car, and my personal favorite, video games that require lots of concentration and logical thinking. Avoid alcohol unless its going in the fuel tank of your hotrod. Lately I'm getting into woodworking, building things for my home. Soon I'll be building my fuel project and getting ready to produce more. Stay busy, distract yourself from thinking about it until you no longer think about it.

I have other methods for getting your life back on track, but they're not for everyone and your state might take a dim view of a couple of them. Nothing illegal, but disadvantageous in a divorce depending on the state. It's nothing negative, and it's the fast way, but socially not "nice". One being, go find someone else. Works great, but can cause issues, so get legal advice first.

[Turbo Regal]

Weight loss isnt an issue anymore I went from 205lbs to now 170lbs since December. I have a feeling more will fall off before this is over with. I do need to find a hobby to do in the evenings so im not thinking so much about everything.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'll be praying for you and your son.

Get yourself a project car. It sure helped my brother during a divorce to go out to the garage and work out his aggression by sanding on his Chevy II.

[BangShift McT]

Been there, done that, sorry to see you going through it. Best airline ticket I ever bought...not for me, for her.

[chevybuytroy]

Yesterday was a rough day and night. Trying to control panic attacks. I get them at work. Anyone have any recomendations I sure would appreciate it to stop them. The doctor gave me adavan when one starts but they dont work.

[tardis454]

Yesterday was a rough day and night. Trying to control panic attacks. I get them at work. Anyone have any recomendations I sure would appreciate it to stop them. The doctor gave me adavan when one starts but they dont work.

Xanax, my mom used to get panic attacks, that's what the doc gave her, they work.

Best advice I can give you, (I don't want to sound rude) but,...you gotta harden the Effff up dude. You have a child counting on you, and you gotta be the rock for him. Women come and go, marriages fail, people fail... Don't fail, forge ahead and win. You think she gives a damn that you're hurting? Probably not. I died once, not much phases me after that experience. My life and views about life changed considerably after that. It was sink or swim for me, I swam, I'm still here. Don't sweat it, tomorrows another day, this too shall pass, it always does. Take Todd's (Thumpin455) advice. He's been through it, he's still here, he became the rock. Everyone here gives a damn about you, so give a damn about yourself brother. Get pissed off, go outside and scream, cry, pound your fists on the ground if you have to, get it out of your system. You're gonna be alright...

[chevybuytroy]

I hear you. That why I've been going to therapy about it. To figure out how to come through this. I've always been kinda a softy and almost never get mad. Trying to learn how.

[Deaf Bob]

I never went thru what you are going thru..
I see some pretty good advice given here by those who have lived it..
Listen to it..

[70chevyC-10]

This is sad to hear but you have to be strong. That boy does not want or deserve to be alone again in life. Call your Dr. (don't wait for your next appt.) back and tell him the meds didn't work - what about Xanax ? They usually start people on the lighter stuff rather than start you with the strong stuff I bet. But you got to let them know ASAP you need something else during this time. Prayers sent your way too.

[RAIV70Judge]

I also have been in your situation.....twice, my second ran off with her first cousin for cripes sake,.....I pulled thru with my cars and my 2 young kids....(and I stayed angry for awhile)...
lots of great advice here. Be strong for the kiddo-all will work out well before you know it.

[Beagle]

time takes care of a lot of it. Take care of yourself and the kid, but don't let him know you put this on her car...



you deserve a laugh late at night when your brain starts in on you. I'd consider a benzodiazapene a _short_ term solution if you have any addictive issues... pretty easy to get dependent on them and then you've substituted one problem for another. Hang in there man.

[chevybuytroy]

that made me smile. We found a Nintendo wii here tonight so we got it hooked up. Wrestled for about 40 mins then played video games till I needed to take him home. Left his homework at the house so she can deal with it. She texted me when I was going to take him home because she wanted a bath and he wont let her have peace while she is in there. I waited till I I figured she got in the tub and took him home. Amy and I bought a brand new mattress 2 weekends ago because she was saying her "actions should tell her I was commited. I stupidly gave in and bought an expensive king size. They delivered it to grandmas house. I thought about taking it back but since Ive been sleeping on it I haven't had my normal back issues and my nearopathy hasn't been flaring up as bad in my legs. More of a bed than I need but will prolly keep it now if it helps my back pain. He helped me bring in wood tonight also. Says hes a man by doing things like that so it makes me feel I'm doing something right.

Thanks everyone who has been posting. It really helps. I constantly read them while I'm at work to keep me thinking positive. I truly have great friends on here. You guys have been better than some of my friends I see in person and I have never met anyone of you in real life.

[STINEY]

A mattress that cures back pain? And in real life, not just marketing hype?

Please do share details?

[chevybuytroy]

not cure, just helps my old mattress was a soft one. This one is a lot firmer. Meant Im not waking up with my back hurting from sleeping wrong. Its a temperpedric?

[DanStokes]

Thanks everyone who has been posting. It really helps. I constantly read them while I'm at work to keep me thinking positive. I truly have great friends on here. You guys have been better than some of my friends I see in person and I have never met anyone of you in real life.

You're not far from The Ohio Mile. I suggest you make the trip at the end of April - several of us will be there. Bring Julian, too - I'll bet he'll dig it! Call soon for a motel room - they fill up fast!

Love to meet you and The Boy.

Dan

[tardis454]

We found a Nintendo wii here tonight so we got it hooked up. Wrestled for about 40 mins then played video games till I needed to take him home.

I waited till I I figured she got in the tub and took him home.

More of a bed than I need but will prolly keep it now if it helps my back pain.

He helped me bring in wood tonight also. Says hes a man by doing things like that so it makes me feel I'm doing something right.

You guys have been better than some of my friends I see in person and I have never met anyone of you in real life.

That's the spirit, live life, and take care of your boy.. Sleep on the mattress built for a king.

The Bangshift community cares. We've all gone through Shitsville via Turd Canyon..